There is a belief going around that I don’t understand. I don’t understand it at all. I don’t even really understand why anyone would want to believe it. I can speculate but I don’t really know. It’s getting really popular too. Like, tons and tons of people believe it and I think it’s kind of awful.
It’s the belief that we don’t have the power to choose. People seem to believe that we don’t have the power to choose how we feel, how we react to others, how we behave, what we crave, what we desire, even who we love. That’s right. People believe that we humans are incapable of choosing who we love.
This boggles my mind.
I once chose to love someone. They treated me like dirt. I chose to stop loving them. I stopped loving them immediately. I’m happy now. Simple.
This strange belief that so many people have is so strong that they get offended when I tell them about my belief. My belief is that we can choose. I believe that we humans can and do choose everything about what and who we are on the inside.
You don’t have to stay in love with the creep that’s ruining your life. You don’t have to crave sugar. You don’t have to feel sad when stuff happens that you don’t want to have happen.
The thing is, it takes work. It takes a ton of freaking work and people don’t like doing a ton of freaking work. It’s easier to just blame your problems on everything around you. He MADE me angry. She MADE me feel sad. I couldn’t help it, the craving was just too strong.
No. YOU MADE yourself angry. YOU MADE yourself feel sad. No one can control your emotions. No one but you. You decide. When you see that sugary treat sitting there on the counter and feel that craving coming on, you decide whether to let it actually come. You crave the treat. It’s something you are doing. YOU ARE DOING IT. You are craving. It’s all you my friend.
Now I’m not saying I’m perfect at this. I’m nowhere near perfect at it. It’s freaking hard, like I said. Anything that’s this hard takes a LOT of practice, probably a lifetime of practice. Also, sometimes things happen that we ought to feel sad about. It’s healthy to feel sad if your mom dies. That’s an appropriate time to let yourself feel really, really sad. Part of the learning is figuring out when it’s appropriate to let yourself feel certain ways. Heck, sometimes it’s healthy to feel sad about stupid things like losing your favorite pair of socks, whatever. Just own that emotion. Recognize that it’s something that you are choosing to do, not something that is being done to you by some external force.
This is a personal belief of mine. It’s a personal belief that ticks a lot of people off and that’s interesting to me. Why does it offend you that I truly believe that you are powerful beyond measure? Why does it bother you that I believe that you have limitless potential? Is it because I believe it about myself as well and that makes me cocky? Lol! Or is it because with power comes great responsibility? Maybe it’s a little of both. Who knows? Maybe it just sounds too hard to some people and they don’t want to have to face that kind of hard work. Either way, I still believe it. You are amazing and you can and do choose everything about what and who you are on the inside. Everything. Every thought, every action, every reaction, every feeling, every craving, every desire, everything. It’s all on you.